Hello Sugarplums (annoying opening? sorry!) haha.
Hope you are having a great start to your week after the fourth of july weekend extravaganza you may (or may not) have had. I know I personally felt like the holiday was a week-long and i’m pretty beat. My weekend consisted of hanging out with friends, a few sweeeet fireworks, a cookout at mi casa, & chilling in the sunnnn 🙂
Here are a few eats!
overnight oats (that were tooooo runny!!) made 1/3 cup old fashioned oats, plain oikos, & 1/2 cup soymilk.
sushi dinner take out from a restaurant called Tora! shrimp california roll & pickled squash roll with a smoked salmon & veggie salad
Comparing is something that most people do on a daily basis. I know that, for me, every day I have to make a conscious decision not to compare myself to others when I wake up in the morning. In recovery, it was definitely one of the things that I had the hardest time putting behind me. I remember (but barely.. such a blur) being underweight, still needing to gain about 10-15 pounds, and being hindered because i’d watch other people eat and think “well they are eating less than me, I must not have an eating disorder” or “What if people think i’m eating too healthy? Not eating enough? etc. etc.”
Somewhere down the line though, I had a bit of a revelation. I think it was after I had spent about a week with the same group of people for many hours during the day (if you remember humo, it was during practice the couple weeks before the show). I had the opportunity during this time to see how these people truly eat since we were together so much. Though some of them DO eat smaller meals, many, in fact most, snack frequently throughout the day without even thinking about it. I realized how crazy it was that I was comparing my eating to theres because it is impossible to see what people do when you are not with them.
This realization was hands down one of the best things that happened to me during recovery. It dawned on me that I have a really practical and healthy meal plan, and that it works/is designed for me. It was given to me by a nutritionist, and this is something that most girls don’t have access to. If anything, I should be more confident in my eating plan. I realized that I needed to focus on myself, and let others do what they wanted to do. Even if I had a friend who happened to eat less, why would I want to eat like that? Clearly, eating little amounts didn’t do any good- it only caused problems.
My point? I want us all to try our best to stop comparing. Obviously, it is natural to compare ourselves but it doesn’t have to be in a destructive way. It is great if you have certain people you look up to in a healthy way (say, in the blog world) and want to do things like them, but it is also incredibly important to have the confidence in yourself to know that you are able to take care of yourself & that you don’t need to be just like anyone else. To me, many bloggers appear to eat so little, but I have learned to trust my own decisions & try not to compare my meals to there’s. In the end, comparing is simply a waste of time & the only thing you can do is to focus on your life & your choices.
Tips to help you stop comparing (& love yourself!!): (almost all of these have to do with simply being mindful)
1. Be Rational– stop & think about who you are and what you love about yourself. Realize that you have the control to be who you want to be, and you know how to take care of yourself.
2. Compliment others– instead of silently envying someone else or sizing yourself up, compliment them. I’ve found that when I do, I no longer feel anxious. Instead, I feel glad I made them happy & also feel better about myself.
3. Write it down– write down things about you that you are proud of whenever you feel like you may need it (big & little! even if it is something simple like the healthy breakfast you ate that day). By acknowledging these things, you can distract yourself from comparing & rather focus on your positive traits.
4. Judge yourself against yourself – Only focus on what you do each day. It is ok to be a little disappointed if you did something you normally would not, but realize that you have the ability to change your actions and path.
Why am I bringing this up now? because I have honestly not been doing well with my meal plan. I‘m going to lay it out for you all– I am supposed to get in 3 meals with these exchanges– 4 carbs, 3 proteins, 2 fats as well as 2 snacks with 2 carbs, 1-2 proteins, 1-2 fats (click ‘exchanges’ link if you want explanation of exchanges). I have been slacking. I think part of this is because I compare those meals to other people’s, whether it be bloggers (who, no offense, tend to eat smaller meals) or others in my life. This isn’t a healthy thing for me; i’m not necessarily losing weight, but my mind isn’t completely at peace. I need to trust that the meal plan i’ve been given is the best for me and will be what will keep me in my healthy weight range. Deep down I know this is true, but executing it has been sort of challenging lately and I’m not entirely sure why. I’m going to get on track NOW.
Questions: 1) how do you stop yourself from comparing yourself to others?
2) are you a grazer/snacker or do you stick to a pretty consistent meal plan?