Manic Monday

14 Dec

Just another Manic Monday..

I want to start of by saying thank you to all of you who gave me such positive comments in regards to my struggles/positivity on the blog/gertrude/etc. It seriously gets me through my day sometimes just reading them.. so basically, i LOVE YOU ALL πŸ™‚
Sunday was legitimately spent studying
all day long. I woke up at like 9:45, promptly made breakfast

oats with banana, pumpkin butter, peanut butter, raisins, & cinnamon!

& then was headed to the student activity center to study.

Gardner joined me because we were both in psych.

I used pandora to get me through & I actually listened to classical music! It really helped me focus oddly enough. We both got hungry for lunch & decided we didn’t want to lose our table, so we ordered Milio’s subs!


Turkey, provolone, alfalfa sprouts, lettuce, and tomato in a wrap with pretzels

This was just the boost I needed to stay focused studying. Of course, we took plenty of breaks but I honestly was there almost all day.

Dinner was at Quizno’s because it is really close to the place we were studying.


cobb salad & cup of tomato soup

It’s kind of hard to see the salad because of the bread, but it was surprisingly good! It had blue cheese (which i adoree), chicken, bacon, & veggies! I had 1 of the pitas but I was stuffed after dinner.

Gardner talked me into froyo… and Gertrude was like “NOO you don’t need it” but I was able to ignore her πŸ™‚ 1 point shelley, 0 points Gertrude!

apple-pear froyo (I know..yum!) mine is on the left
apple & pear froyo with fruit!! yum (mine is on the left)

Then we were back to studying.. very uneventful day but nonetheless- necessary.

My psych exam is Tuesday & then I have another one Saturday. I have a final paper due the 23rd, but it shouldn’t be hard because we did a ‘first draft’ and I got an A- πŸ™‚ I was really happy!

oh & i was super excited to receive these adorable slippers from my mama for chanukah!


In the last post I mentioned that I was going to discuss a girl on my floor who is suffering from an eating disorder, so here goes nothin’

I noticed that she had lost a significant amount of weight & looked completely unenergized. Her face is sunken in, her pants are incredibly loose, and she has lost the ‘glow’ she had when school started. She is beautiful but she truly looked 5 times better before.

I noticed these changes about a month ago and wanted to say something to her, but felt it wasn’t my place. It only took a little alcohol, however, for me to slip up and make a comment. She was more than happy to go on and on to me about how she knows she has anorexia, she doesn’t have her period (& hasn’t for a while), & she is miserable/consumed with food thoughts. I told her i’m here for her and about how I am on my path to recovery… & that was the end of that. We had a recent talk about it again and she truly is going through a VERY similar situation to me, so part of me just feels like close to her in an indescribable way despite the fact that I don’t know her very well.

Well now it is clear nothing has changed, and if anything she has gotten thinner. Worse, I have these irrational, unfair negative feelings towards her (which completely contradict the closeness I feel)! I see so much of myself in her (i am much healthier now) but for some reason I have hateful feelings towards her. I want to shake her & tell her to stop & tell her she looks sickly, but then I realize how hypocritical it is because I am not far from where she is.

I just don’t know what to do. My psychologist said I should stay away from her, as it could trigger me, and I know she is right. The thing is, I am a compassionate person and hate that no one is doing anything to help her! I mean, other girls on the floor talk about doing things, but everyone is scared to confront her. I truly hope her family at home helps her. I don’t know if she realizes how detrimental this disease can be.

Have any of you been in similar situations? How did you cope? Any advice?

super apologetic for bringing up something that is such a downer, but it has been on my mind & i have a little bit of a feeling that some of you might have some fantastic advice πŸ™‚


Until next time!! Hope your weeks are great ones


xoxooxoxo

Shelleyβ™₯


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45 Responses to “Manic Monday”

  1. blueeyedheart December 14, 2009 at 12:17 pm #

    I’ve been in a somewhat similar situation… and as hard as it is to watch, you really do need to put yourself first. You’re the only one whose actions you have any control over, anyway. Hopefully this girl gets the help she needs over the break.

    Good job on the froyo!! πŸ™‚

    ❀ ❀

  2. Jessica @ How Sweet It Is December 14, 2009 at 12:19 pm #

    Hi darling! I have been in thie situation many times, seeing new clients/members at the gym. I was always a little bit nervous at first, being that I’ve never suffered from an ED, and was afraid to ‘approach’ her. If your therapist says to stay away, maybe you should. Would it be possible to send a small card or something? I am kinda at a loss here…sorry.

  3. maya December 14, 2009 at 12:29 pm #

    I’ve been in a somewhat of the same situation, its like i want to help, but on the other hand i know how detrimental it is for my well being in fighting Gertrude(LOVE THAT lol, ur too cute.) well anywhoo, i try to help others who are struggling, girls i am close with especially, but then i remember that i must just focused on my own recovery…and especially with the twin dynamic in my life, having to live with another anorexic, its so hard sometimes, although we are in the same place physically in recovery, sometimes i feel like i have to “pull her up” and help her, and as u said, that would be hypocritical in many ways…but i think its out nature to want to help others…and maybe sometimes its the ‘competitive’ nature of EDs coming out, like ‘if i am gaining, she should too!!?’ kinda thinking…i dunno, sometimes i feel like that, but then i think…its only me and me in the end, and my life!
    you are doing sooo well!! and we both had froyo challenge!! πŸ™‚ go us! *high five* cutie! πŸ˜‰

    xo
    maya

  4. Missy Maintains December 14, 2009 at 12:46 pm #

    That is a tough situation. I think you did the right thing by saying something since you went through something similar. Now that it is getting worse, I’m not sure how much more you should do. I really hope she gets the help she needs. Sorry you have to watch this!

  5. kelly December 14, 2009 at 1:30 pm #

    hey i was just wondering, what happened to the snacks?
    good luck with finals!
    xoxoxo

    • shell625 December 14, 2009 at 1:31 pm #

      hey hun! totally appreciate the concern- snacks are still there πŸ™‚ no worries!! i don’t like to post eVERYTHING i eat because i don’t want to be judged too much, u know? I had two ensure pluses yesterday & a bar..so no worries.
      (i’m a freak for responding this fast but i’m totally procrastinating studying)

  6. theemptynutjar December 14, 2009 at 1:57 pm #

    Hi there,
    The oats , wraps, everything look wonderful. Good fro-yo fix also for studying. And the slippers are lovely.
    I have been in a very very similar situation and boy oh boy was it tough…still is actually, because its semi-ongoing…but I am learning to ignore….a few christmases ago I saw nothing but skin and bones and wanted to shake her and yell and scream…instead I maintained trying to help…but she completely was in and still is in denial….funny thing? ….this person was contributory to my first downfall…and to 2nd downfall…and even after always offering her support and help…she turns from me like i am a contagious person…she literally has expressed nothing for me but maliciousness…and it hurts…and it angers me…it angers me a lot….to be so self centered and not realize that it is the same situation — she has been there…how soon people are to forget 😦
    I love your blog Shelley…I always read no matter what you write or say, its a dear one to me πŸ™‚

  7. Lexi December 14, 2009 at 2:05 pm #

    Yes, I have been in a similar situation. And it is triggering to be around people who are really, really struggling and don’t have any recovery/treatment support. I would distance yourself from this girl if possible, just because she doesn’t seem to be in the same mindset. I have a friend who has been fighting anorexia the same amount of time I have, and it is motivating to be around her, only because her treatment team is really strong and she’s really strong and works hard everyday to get better.

    Best of luck with exams!
    Cute slippers!
    Love always,
    Lexi

  8. laurasworthlesswords December 14, 2009 at 2:26 pm #

    Yay for Froyo!!! It looks yum πŸ™‚

    Hmm there is only so much you can do for this girl. I know you dont want to feel like your turning your back on her but at the minute you need to really just focus on yourself. A situation like this could pull you back without you really intending or realising it.
    Sometimes I find anorexic girls triggering because it brings out the ED side in me and I start to get triggered by them, I find that some blogs or some sites can have this effect on me so I do my best to avoid them.
    Its sad to see someone else succumb to this disorder but you have had a chat with her and at the end of the day it is her that needs to decide for herself to get better.
    So just remember you are the one you need to be thinking about.
    xox

  9. Jenna December 14, 2009 at 2:28 pm #

    that fro yo looks delish! i am glad you beat gertrude on that one πŸ˜‰
    you are so compassionate and i think that was very kind and daring of you to talk with her, i hope she gets help. i agree with your therapist of staying away from her as she might be triggering!
    i have never been confronted like a situation like yours and i don’t know what i would do either, so props to you girl!
    jenna

  10. determinedtoshine December 14, 2009 at 2:34 pm #

    I’ve had a really similar situation to this… there was a girl in my year at school who’d I’d been distant friends with for a few years, and in the same space of time that my anorexia reached its worse, hers did too. We both had to drop out of school and stayed in contact offering each other support, but each time I saw her it was clear she was not trying in recovery at all. I felt awful for her because I knew how much pain she was in, but on the other hand I was so frustrated that shes was resisting recovery so much! But then at the same time I didn’t want to say anything because I knew it would be hypocritical. Now she is in IP.

    My advice would be, let her know that you are there for her when she wants help (which it sounds like you’ve already done). But other than that, accept that there is nothing more you can do for her. Unless she truly wants to get better, nobody will ever be able to make her, and its not your responsibility. As harsh as it sounds… you have to look after no. 1 in the situation – YOURSELF. She could easily end up being triggering to you, and that is the last thing you need right now.

    Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that we cannot save everybody. It doesn’t make you a bad person though!

    Lots of love!
    Hannah xo

  11. homecookedem December 14, 2009 at 4:12 pm #

    Adorable slippers!! Keep racking up those points against Gertrude!! πŸ™‚ That fro-yo looks so yummy!!

  12. Mitri December 14, 2009 at 4:40 pm #

    The eats look great πŸ™‚ and I’m impressed by your studying habits! Glad the holidays have almost come for you.

    I haven’t been in the same position as you are, but… I think you did the right thing by letting her know you can relate and that you are there to help her. If she wants the help, though, she will have to come to you. I know it can be triggering to be around certain people, read certain texts, visit certain sites… That’s why it’s so important to have people around you who are NOT disordered, like your family, Gardner, and so on.

  13. Katey December 14, 2009 at 4:42 pm #

    Is there a way you could tell a nurse or a school official without her knowing? I know it’s a different situation, but my friend was threatening to kill herself, and I went to the nurse and they took immediate action, but she never found out I told. Anorexia is very life threatening too- maybe you should go to health services and tell them about her?

  14. chocolate pickle December 14, 2009 at 4:55 pm #

    Hi! Your slippers are SOOOO cute! I love the peace signs:) And again, I can’t say how jealous I am of the fro yo….I love custard, but there’s just something about fro yo that is pure perfection!

    The situation with the girl on your floor sounds rough:/ The problem, as I’m sure you know, is that she probably won’t change until SHE decides it’s time, but someone probably needs to intervene! I would be careful telling anyone at the school necessarily because they have the ability to force someone to take medical leave…I don’t know if I’d want to be the one responsible for something like that since it can be a forceful situation….and she might do better staying in school while trying to recover. Telling her family might be the best bet if someone knows how to get ahold of them? I wish I had a perfect answer for you…..because it’s hard to see someone suffer, but not easy to decide when it’s your place to step in and you don’t want it to trigger you! Good luck, whatever you decide to do! I hope she gets some help!!

  15. rebecca lustig December 14, 2009 at 5:06 pm #

    Hi darling,
    I understand how hard it is to see someone suffer, especially if they’re a friend. However, you must remember to keep yourself in mind and put YOUR own recovery FIRST. If I’ve learned anything it’s that you can’t ‘fix’ or ‘save’ a human being. Only they can change themselves.

    Stay beautiful, stay strong– I’m here for you
    bec xo

  16. MelissaNibbles December 14, 2009 at 5:21 pm #

    Comfy slippers!

    I’m sorry to hear about the girl on your floor. It’s great that you reached out to her. Maybe you can remind her that you’re still there for her if she needs you. She just probably feels very alone. I hope she has a supportive family at home. However, you need to put your recovery first and if being around her leads to triggering feelings, it might be best to stay away. I’m sorry you’re feeling so conflicted 😦

    Happy Chanukah!

  17. Emily (http://funnyemily.wordpress.com) December 14, 2009 at 6:02 pm #

    got to love study days. not. haha at least you have gardner to keep you company πŸ™‚
    delicious eats my dear, glad you rocked the froyo!!
    as for seeing others suffer, that’s something that is really hard for me. honestly it makes me feel really competitive and i can’t handle it. part of me just wants to talk to them and find out how they are feeling, but i know that i’m not strong enough as myself to do that. hope she finds help, but understand that it is in no way your fault if she doesn’t, nor is it your responsibility.
    hope you have a wonderful monday and exams are going well πŸ™‚
    xoxo

  18. Sarah December 14, 2009 at 6:22 pm #

    There was a girl at the gym who I knew was anorexic. (She’d be on the elliptical for 3 hours straight and looked like she was incredibly sick.) I tried to befriend her, but she was in complete denial of her situation. Eventually some professors called her parents, but I thought it was best to distance myself. I agree with your pschologist. It’s too easy to be triggered. As terrible as that sounds, you have to take care of yourself.
    xoxoxo
    Sarah

  19. Simply Life December 14, 2009 at 7:11 pm #

    yum, everything looks delicious!…especially that froyo!

  20. Jenny December 14, 2009 at 7:13 pm #

    aw honey, unfortunately — you have been cursed with a kind heart. I know how tempting it is to want to help and save everyone — but when it gets down to it, you need to put yourself first! I would hate for you to be triggered by your friend and let it effect you negatively in any way. You are on the right track and doing amazingly! you deserve to be healthy and not jaded by anyone else’s negativity. I know it’s tough, and I’m sure I sound like an awful person — but you need to put yourself first! I love you so much, angel!

    p.s. adorbs slippers :)!

  21. candice December 14, 2009 at 7:16 pm #

    Ooh, pear fro-yo? I’d like to try that sometime πŸ˜€

    I don’t think I’ve ever personally met anyone with an eating disorder, so I don’t exactly have the experience of how to help anyone. 😦 So far, it doesn’t sound like that girl realizes her problem yet. I know you want to help her, but I think your psychologist is right—I think you must make a full recovery before you can go on to help others. I’ll be rooting for you!

  22. Amy December 14, 2009 at 7:35 pm #

    hi! im new to reading your post but this reallyy hit me… i went to college this yr only semi-recovered from my anorexia. i lasted about 5 weeks before i had lost weight and was at a very very very critically low weight. my parents withdrew me from school and im now at home. i WISH someone would have said some thing to me while i was at school if i my roommate wouldnt have dieted and someone would have confronted me. but no one did. i dk if that helps with the girl on your floor but i do know some people just are in such denial that they must wait to find it for themselves to recover. but i TOTALLY understand your somewhat “hatred” for her. my friend has an undiagnosed eating disorder and i CANNOT be around her. she drives me crazy and my therapist has also told me to avoid her at all costs. it has helped a lot in my recovery to stay away from her. i feel bad sometimes for having this like hatred for her but i think its just the part of me that knows what anorexia did to me and i dont want it to happen to her to. hang in there.

    xoxo,
    Amy

  23. Jess December 14, 2009 at 9:18 pm #

    Sorry to hear about that girl at school! While I know you want to help (and I would too!) she might just have to hit rock bottom before she wants to get help/realize how sick she is. Or I could be totally wrong and you could offer her all sorts of help! But the first step is reaching out for help. You have offered help and a place to talk, so if she feels like it, she will come talk to you. You will know what to do. Hopefully her family and close friends will help her and reach out as well!

    Don’t let her interfere with your recovery! Take care of yourself, then others! You cannot love others if you don’t love yourself first πŸ™‚ You can do this babe! Here for you if you wanna email πŸ™‚

    ❀ jess
    xoxo

  24. Katy December 14, 2009 at 9:37 pm #

    Tough situation — I’m glad to see you’re getting so much feedback in the comments!

    I HAVE to listen to music at work…I get distracted by silence! I’ve been listening to a Pachelbel station on Pandora and it’s been so soothing. Makes me want to get in child’s pose and just Zen out.

  25. katie December 14, 2009 at 9:44 pm #

    Hey Love!!!

    All I have to say is Always surround yourself with Positive things/People and keep away from Negative Things/People, thats a good rule!!!

    You are such a sweet girl!!! Love reading your posts and I love those slippers!!! Where did your mom get those!!!?

    Happy Hanukkah to you as well!!!! Im not sure if I spelled that correct, i see it spelled so many different ways!!

    You must try the Holiday Pie, it is so good!!!

    Have a great week !! xoxo

  26. kbwood December 14, 2009 at 10:05 pm #

    yay for FROZEN YOGURT!!! gosh you so deserved it. i hope you are having an awesome day girl..and I know exactly what you mean about that girl..ive seen many girls like that at school but its such a touchy subject because you hate her and love her at the same time (thats how i felt atleast) . if you know her- i think its appropriate to say something..if you dont know her then just say a prayer for her an move on..but bless you for having such a big heart!

  27. nattietan December 14, 2009 at 10:32 pm #

    Hey Shelley!! I’m back to commenting which means I’m up and running again which means that I have to thank you so much for all your beautiful, encouraging messages! Thank you hun!! Honestly!

    I often see other girls who look like death but I realise that at the end of the day, they will only find help when they want to. You have done your part as a friend and just be there for her when she looks for you. However, I agree with your therapist that it would be best to keep a distance from her right now.

    I also get those feelings of loathing(?) towards them which I think is natural but in a way, their journey is theirs to make and as we are at a different stage of recovery, what we have learned have yet to be uncovered by them so it is understandable why it is so tempting to want to scream sense into them because it is so obvious to us now that anorexia is not something that is desirable; that bones are uggz; that we are more deserving of real life!

    I shall stop here lest I start writing a whole post on your blog. Lol. You are amazing and beautiful hun! And I have no doubt that you have the will power to be healthy and even more stunning that you already are! Oh, and I l-l-l-LOVE those slippers your Mum got you! They look so cosy!!

    Big *hugs* from me to you!
    xx

  28. Melissa S. December 14, 2009 at 10:59 pm #

    Ohhh honey, i went through the exact same thing in college with so so so many girls at my school. My best advice is that no matte how compassionate you are, STAY AWAY. I know you want to help, but it is not going to help you in the end and you need to get yourself healed first. Might sound selfish, but your life, your happiness is what comes first and foremost! See if you can’t get someone else to convincer her to see a school counselor or something to get some help..that’s what i did.

  29. vegfiguresk8er December 14, 2009 at 11:53 pm #

    cute slippers! πŸ™‚

    I’m sorry to hear about the other girl, but I think it’s great that she has you trying to look out for her! you are such a sweetie!

  30. julia December 15, 2009 at 3:20 am #

    Way to go for having that froyo!
    And I LOVE blue cheese too, mmm!

    Please protect yourself during this time by keeping away from that girl. I know it’s not what you wanna do, because you’re sweet and caring and wanna help others. But it’s so important. First you have to help yourself, then later you can help others. But it’s not later yet…It’s like in an airplane: you have to use your own mask for air first:) Really, it’s important!

    xxx Julia (Taste of Living)

  31. Naomi (onefitfoodie) December 15, 2009 at 5:28 am #

    yay for froyo! its delicious isn’t it? so glad you treated yourself to some all your eats look great and well balanced, Shelley I am so very proud yuo have come a long way!

    happy hannukah!!! we had potato latkes on sunday night they were SO good!!!

    as for the girl, I would have to agree with what lots of people have been telling you which is to distance yourself from this girl. I know it is so hard esp since you said you are a very compassionate person, but she is clearly in a bad place and needs to figure this out. Right now you need to focus on you, and focusing your time on her could (just like your therapist said, become a trigger)

    you are doing so great, and I don’t want you to stop helping yourself!

    xoxoxox

  32. tatiannalives December 15, 2009 at 6:18 am #

    I wanted to say thanks again for being so honest in your commenting on my blog.. I am trying so hard to increase my intake, and everytime I read one of your realistic comments, it motivates me to do better πŸ˜€

    Your eat’s look absolutely fabulous today – I would say that is some definite brain food! You will do wonders on your finals… no doubt!

    As for your situation, I don’t have much experience. If it were me, I might try striking up another convo (maybe without the influence of drinks) and give it one last shot. We all know that you can’t force someone to get help, they need to realize it on their own just like each and every one of us. Yes, you may be able to help her and be there for her when she needs support, but ultimately she needs to want to change in order for it to happen. Just let her know that you are there when she is ready?

    xox
    Tat

  33. Laura December 15, 2009 at 7:38 am #

    There was a girl in one of my classes this year that walked in and made my JAW drop. She was SCARY thin, and I really wanted to help her but I didn’t feel it was my place. However I decided that if it would help her, then it would be worth it so I sent her a FB message praying she wouldn’t take it the wrong way. She was actually thankful that I reached out to her and we stayed in touch the rest of the semester until last week we went to get coffee. And by coffee I mean I got something and she didn’t.

    She was so much more sick than I thought, and although she is planning on entering treatment in January it was still a huge trigger to see that she is worse than I ever have been (and ever WILL be, let me tell you!!) It’s tough, and now I really care about her…but I can’t associate myself with her. It was a tough meeting, and I know how it feels to FEEL like a hypocrite. But I also don’t believe we ARE hypocrites since in our hearts we know what we truly want…it’s just a tiny voice telling us otherwise.

    Stay strong dear. and FIGHT this. ❀

  34. Lwellford December 15, 2009 at 10:58 am #

    Shelley, I wrote you an email, did you get it?

  35. lowandbhold December 15, 2009 at 11:57 am #

    I love those quiznos salads actually, and good for you for beating out gertrude and getting some froyo! That flavor sounds awesome.

    I am sorry about that girl, it’s terrible that she doesn’t seem to have any support. But remember to take care of yourself and put your health first, whatever that means you need to do.

  36. The Candid RD December 15, 2009 at 3:41 pm #

    First of all, I love those slippers! My mom got me some slippers similar to those last Christmas (I’m wearing them now!) and I love them.

    Regarding the girl on your floor, I think your therapist is right, you need to stay away form her until you are completely healed yourself. IT truly is easy to slip right back into ED problems, as you may know, and as much as you want to comfort her and be there for her, you probably know from experience that this is something that she will have to deal with on her own (as in, with help from close friends family and most importantly a psychologist). Sometimes having friends her age tell her that she is looking skinny or sickly will trigger her to deprive herself even more, you know? I would suggest talking to your RA and seeing if your RA will talk to her parents. I’m sure they would like to know what is going on.

  37. Allie (Live Laugh Eat) December 15, 2009 at 4:20 pm #

    So jealous you have tart froyo on/near campus!! I would totally use all my food points on that. Yikes your finals go forever–hang in there. Break is coming! I sometimes listen to classical music when I study just so I don’t get distracted by singing along πŸ˜‰

  38. Katelyn December 15, 2009 at 5:01 pm #

    sounds like you had a very productive day of studying with lots of yummy meals mixed in πŸ™‚

    as for the girl on your hall, that would be such a hard situation. do you have an RA you can talk to? if not, there should be some way that you or an authority figure can refer her to counseling services. you are absolutely right that someone needs to do something for her, but at this point it seems like someone with more authority should be stepping in, doesn’t it?

    good luck with everything – finals and the situation with the girl on your hall.

  39. Caitlyn December 15, 2009 at 6:30 pm #

    Sounds like some tough stuff! Sometimes I spend so much time worrying about other people that I forget about myself… but the best thing you can do for her is to continue to do good for yourself, and set that example for her to follow. You can not pull other people out of the rough water until you are standing on solid ground!

    Hope your final went well!
    Keep the Faith!

  40. Molly December 15, 2009 at 7:23 pm #

    ah girl thanks so much for the comment on my blog. I LOVE yours, and those slippers are amazing. It’s -2 here right now, I could use some of my own!
    Have a fabulous rest of your Tuesday πŸ™‚

  41. burpexcuzme December 15, 2009 at 9:37 pm #

    Ok. I can’t say much ON here without hurting people’s feelings…but yeah, I definitely KNOW what you mean…I’m going through the same ordeal myself.
    I’d love to talk to you more about it and how I deal with it, but it’ll have to be by email. πŸ™‚

  42. Katharina December 16, 2009 at 8:25 am #

    That is a tough situation to be in. But since you know what it’s like I think it’s easier for you to put yourself in her shoes and think about what she would want deep down inside. Those spiteful feelings towards her are probably coming from Gertrude. I remember I went through that with 2 of my friends. One encounter about 3 years I let get to me and I relapsed. In a way I’m glad that happened because I saw how much I let someone’s appearance trigger me and nowadays that doesn’t get to me. The best thing is to see her for who she is and talk to her about what’s going on in her thoughts. You can also suggest that she go to the school’s doctor (do they also have nutritionists available). I know the semester is ending but she can atleast go see a doctor before she goes back home. You can let her know how serious and damaging anorexia is to the body. Also, show her that you can be happy and not restrict. Afterall, who is TRULY happy when they restrict? So just do what you can do because in the end it’s up to her. Hopefully she’ll see that people do care about her and that she’s worth more than ED πŸ™‚

    p.s. I LOVE those slippers πŸ˜€ Mom has good taste! And good luck on your exams, sweetie.

    XOXOX

    http://www.ohonemorething.wordpress.com

    • Katharina December 16, 2009 at 8:31 am #

      p.s. I forgot to mention, if the girl is very triggering for you and it’s bringing you down then try to distance yourself. You worked very hard to get to where you are right now in your recovery and you should do what’s best for you too πŸ˜€ Love youuuu

  43. body armor vest December 23, 2009 at 5:45 pm #

    Thanks for sharing. Christmas is so close and I haven’t done my shopping yet. I still need to buy my sister the lord of the rings book series. Amazon has some insane deals.

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